WHAT MAKES MY MARRIAGE WORK?

One need to know that when they enter into a marital relationship, they should never enter with an expectation of any sort. Why because, of course you are entering from two different backgrounds. You will have to get to know each other, because even though one may be dating for years, when one actually decide to enter into a bonded relationship as marriage, its the beginning of a new world. Always do things to gether, communicate, ( Important, please note that :communication is an essential ingriedient in any type of relationship. Marital, frienship, intimate or otherwise, without communication, you don't really have a relationship. One is not a mind reader, so it is important to verbalize ones thoughts or feeling so the other person will know how to address your needs or your situation or simply to relate to one another), respect each other. Nurish your relationship as if it is a child. Always water it with love as if it is a plant and be considerate, "what would I like formyself" ok! do exactly the same to the other person. Never point fingers, there is alway another way to start a conversation, refer to a situation, or we, instead of you, I. What we could do, how we can better address the situation, ask questions to raise awareness, rather than saying. "I told you to" " you are the one that did this" Find a unique way to communicate to each other, make sure that you are always including respect in your communication. Never try to hurt or offend the person you are communicating with, it will never resolve a situation. It will only make the situation worst. Oh! "Always, always, address the little things that creeps up in your relationship" Please never ignore or dismiss it as "not important". These little things are the most distructive, when you dismiss them, they begin to grow into big monsters, then, one day a masive explosion. Almost as if one is building a brick wall, each little situation ignored, dismiss or left unresolved is a brick added to your wall. One day that wall is going to come down crushing with a big bang. The wall crash because thare are no real foundation, no real structure and no good material so there is no way it can stand. It has got to come down and believe me, it will. If you are reading this and you were ignoring the little things, I hope today will be the last day. Have a great life, enjoy your marriage, make the best of every minuite, you have only got one life. Oh!, no matter what belief you have , your marriage will never be the same without God being the head of it. There is only so much you can see and do. Some things, you just have to trust Him to do for you. He will, only, if you allow him to.